We all love reading great epic stories, ones that are filled with adventures, great sacrifices, successes and comebacks… stories of human souls elevating to new heights or hitting rock bottoms only to rebound back up, stories we sometimes wish we are the heroes in them.
However, when it comes to our own lives, we usually settle for a life far less exciting, a predictable & calculated life, so safe and so secure, yet many times boring and bland. We avoid the very thing we loved in the epic stories we read, because of the risk factor it carries, or because of the insecurities we have inside of us that we don’t want to face. We overthink the consequences of our actions on our lives, and the lives of those around us, our families and loved ones, and sometimes we think too much that we cripple ourselves by our own fears. We forget that we can go as high as we wish we can and that its never too late to start chasing our dreams.
Now, it will be naïve to think that just because you are willing to take chances and follow your dream, it will be an easy ride and things will workout as smooth as you wish. Great things in life are not easy to get, and they usually require hard work, sacrifice and dedication and for the most part, they require time, so you also need to be patient. As said “Don’t give up. Remember, its always the last key on the key ring that opens the door.” – Paulo Coelho’s Novel (Manuscript Found in Accra). You would need to take the high road, the road less traveled, which is a very bumpy road in most cases, and work hard to get what you want, so that when you get it, you would really appreciate it a enjoy it. Somehow it always works out at the end, so if it doesn’t work out, it still not the end.
In his best seller book “The Exceptional Living”, Jim Rohn sets some life rules on how to deal with the challenges in life and how to overcome them to reach your goals. He asks that you focus on changing yourself, your mindset, your life rather than trying to change the external world, which is always impossible.
• If you wish for anything in life, go learn it, study it and master it.
• Capture great ideas in writing and do not trust your memory, write them down in a journal for example.
• You may not be able to do all your “find-outs“ but make sure you “find-out” all what you can do.
• It is not what happens to you that sets the pace, rather it’s what you do about it.
• Do not wish it was easier, wish you were better.
• Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job, you make a living.. if you work hard on yourself, you make a fortune.
Some might say, why work hard as everything is destined, which is their way of saying they are too lazy to make things happen and they would rather be the victims of the external forces, and thus they cannot be blamed for their failures. A wise friend once told me an interesting analysis on destiny, and it goes like this; our lives milestones are destined and it is up to us how to reach them and which route to take. For example, say you were destined to get/win one million dollar. You can work hard & honest and earn that million or use the easy way and get it unethically, but in all cases you will get it. So the roads you take in life are up to you. In the famous series “Grey’s Anatomy” a line is said by Weber, which I found very interesting “We are all gonna die, we don’t get much say over how or when, but we do get to decide over how we are gonna live. So do it, decide. Is this the life you wanna live? Is this the person you wanna love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger, kinder, more compassionate? Decide”
Life is too short to waste it on what-if’s and regrets on things you were too afraid to do or decisions we didn’t have the courage to take, or relationships you were too proud to pursue. Make sure you live a life you are proud to share with the world, and brag to your grandkids about, a fulfilling and memorable life. Think of that one thing that if you were guaranteed success in it now, you would go do it right away, and then go do it TODAY.
Happy New Year 🙂